I know my seester-wives have blogged about this before and so have I like fifty bajillion times, but as I have said before, it bears repeating. You know I learned a new term and acronym: YKINMKATOK. Which stands for, “Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That’s Okay” and I wish more people would adopt this mentality instead of being SJW weirdos and policing other people’s horrible choices. That last bit was a joke, I hope you all have and can appreciate a sarcastic asshole witchcraft Femdom like me!
Kinky Etiquette In BDSM
I’m sure you’re aware that some people’s fetishes may not make sense to you, but this is a no judgement zone WITH certain limitations obviously. But even with those limitations, I do understand the psychology of kinks, and their origins. Some people use BDSM and phone sex as therapy. Many recovering alcoholics, drug addicts, abuse victims, turn to BDSM and sex work services to help them get better. And in that way, BDSM and phone sex are a very helpful service.
The Kinky Etiquette Police
Unfortunately not everyone is going to agree with your choices, and that’s fine. What’s not fine is policing people and telling them they “shouldn’t” do something because it’s offensive. Let me give you an example of something that is offensive: Being a sexist prick; being a racist prick; disrespecting someone’s boundaries; acting without consent; being verbally or emotionally abusive. Let me give you an example of something that’s not offensive: Respecting people’s boundaries; exploring your kink and learning its origins; asking for consent before trying something with a D/s partner.
Problematic BDSM Kinks
Behavior in the BDSM community is not always going to be perfect, and there are some problematic people in that community. Which is why education and communication are important. Remember my sissy etiquette blog? I will be honest with you, I don’t give a flying fart what your kink is, so long as whoever you play with is a consenting adult and you are both respecting each other’s boundaries. And as long as you respect mine, and the boundaries of any of us you talk to at LDW. Being considerate is so relatively easy, and so is supporting us, that I really don’t understand why any of you would have the thought in your mind to be rude or disrespectful but hey… apparently some of you need CBT even if it’s not your kink.
Why Are There So Many Sissies?
Well golly gee maybe because there are a whole lot of people who enjoy roleplaying that someone demanded that they wear panties and then Dominated them into cross dressing and oh my gosh someone’s wee boner started dripping because Mistress said being a woman is what you will be trained towards. And holy crapola some people have raging orgasms from being emasculated! I was talking to a fellow Femdom and yes, we’re aware that trans people indulge in this fantasy, some don’t, and that the sissy community sometimes (OFTEN) is problematic. So am I going to stop talking to sissies or doing sissy fetish sessions? No.
Here’s Where I Tell Any Naysayers To Fuck Off
There are so many people struggling with gender and sexuality. And if roleplaying feminization is therapeutic for them, then get off your high horse and go find something else to do. What we’re not about to do is police people’s sexuality and demonize something that is helping them learn more about themselves.
Gooning And Mind Control
I suspect very soon some jerkoff is going to get on a soapbox and say pornography and fetishes like gooning masturbation that involve manipulating consent, are evil and bad. Oh wait… that actually already happened didn’t it? That’s why the adult industry is going through some of the nonsense it’s going through right now. It’s also why some people don’t like Femdoms and that other kind of Domme that involves taking your money via something that starts with fins and not the type you see on a dolphin, and indulging your “exposing” fetish that starts with the color black, and ends with the delivery of your “mail.” You get me?
By The Way I Have No Issue With Those Two Kinks That Involve Fins And Mail
I don’t judge and I don’t have time for kink shaming, I’ve discussed them before. Nor do I have any issue with any of the many varying sex work services offered like only air propellers, and quite actually I fully support the SW community including porn. Because – and don’t be shocked – I LIKE WATCHING PORN TOO. Sex isn’t evil for me, nor should it be evil for anyone who just wants to forget their troubles for a while and feel good. I do have a problem with some of the fucking silly cattiness in the adult industry among women in the industry. We’re supposed to be supporting each other. Yes that means I support people outside of this service. That’s really not that controversial, so my advice to fellow phone girls, phone dommes, cam girls, content people, is to get the fucking stick out of your ass. There’s this weird mentality that some of you have, that I’m not going to discuss here because we’re discussing BDSM Etiquette!
No Matter What You Like Kinky Etiquette Helps All Of Us
Because if you don’t respect boundaries I will not play with you. If you don’t respect women and you disrespect anyone of us I’m going to call you on your bs. You can do your thing without being a raging thundercunt. As they say in NOLA “Be Nice Or Leave.” There’s a time to be rude – I use my platform to be rude on occasion because sometimes you fuckers only understand being told off – however imagine a world where you can’t get served because you were disrespectful, and someone assertive who has a fucking backbone – like me – told you to go fall off a cliff? Get it? Got it? Great!
Kinky Etiquette In Phone Sex
You already know that if you start crying about your feelings and whining about not getting your way, I’m going to tell you to talk to someone else. BUTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you like that kind of sassyness and want me to kick your ass real good, call me! Just dial 1-800-601-6975 and ask for Mistress Brighton. My sweet smile is a trap, not an invitation, fuck face.
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Great post Ms Brighton!
I agree, there are too many people that need a healthy dose of MYOFB. It doesn’t matter if you agree, it doesn’t matter what YOU think, no one is going to “make” you engage in activities you don’t want to. So chill turn, and walk away if you don’t agree. If you ask me there are a multitude of “mainstream behaviors” out there that I find offensive and I don’t agree with. I just keep moving and minding my own fucking business
Mainstream is for suckers! If I don’t like something I move along, super easy right? Now gee why is that so difficult for “SOME” people? xoxo
Ah! That was cathartic for Me to read, so I sure hope it was cathartic for you to write, Empress Brighton! And, of course, it was plenty edifying. There are people who needed to read that, and check themselves. But aren’t there always?
Thanks for writing!
I aim for a bit of cathartic, and a whole lot of rowdy. Haha, thank you my sexy peach!
Thank You, Ms. Brighton! Your blogs are always so well written and just what we need to hear.
Thank you jizzy! xoxo
Hi Ms Brighton ,love this post, always is something sexy as heck, when you give everyone esp us sissies a good ass reaming !! Gets us all in line !! Definitely agree with all you said !! Very Enlightening , Thanks for posting xoxos
Thanks viola!
I don’t really care how many times any of us post about it, keep on posting, it needs to be said. And if people actually had some tact (including other swers) then more of us could enjoy each other and what we do. Keep telling the “karen’s” to have several seats. ????????
RIGHT ON! Maybe once a month, or weekly, hell daily! ????