I’ve been meaning to touch on this subject of female submissives for a while, and since we’ve launched in the virtual world, I have met quite a few women who are either femdom switches – like a few of our in world mistresses – or completely submissive, and interested in doing sessions with a dominatrix. I feel like we talk so much about women in dominant roles, being that we are a femdom service, but not nearly enough about submissive women and what it means to be one.
Female Submissives
My personal feeling is that one of the best ways to learn how to be dominant, is by first being submissive. Now some women are naturally dominant, others like to dance between the two. And then there are some women who prefer to be dominated, and are fully submissive. It should be clear right off the bat, that female submissives are deserving of just as much respect, as domme’s – if not more – because it’s my personal feeling that they have a very special insight into the world of femdom.
Submissive Women Are Not Doormats
Please recondition yourself, if you are under the assumption that if a woman says she is submissive, you can immediately bark orders at her and call her names. Being submissive does not mean a woman is a doormat. If anything submissives are very much aware of how vulnerable they are or can be, and as always, safety is very important. Having a good rapport with someone who might be a potential Mistress or Master, and getting to know them first is essential before you dive into a relationship with one. There are many predatory types out there that prey on submissives, so exercise caution if and when pursuing one.
A true dominant knows that respect and trust is key. I speak from experience, because while my preference is dominant, my boyfriend is a switch, and we’ve had some very interesting and exciting times, when the roles have been reversed! I am not – however – keen on very many people dominating me, as I prefer being in control. Plus I can’t tell you how many times some wanna be dom tried to pull his shenanigans with me and I laughed in his face. Don’t be that guy.
Speaking from a place of being on both sides, there is something very erotic about someone else being in control. For women, there are many who enjoy submitting to a man or woman, and know just how intimate and arousing the experience can be. There is a certain rush, that you get from being dominated, and if you are submissive you know the exact feeling I’m referring to.
Sessions With A Mistress
While sessions with a mistress are not exclusive to phone or virtual, if you are a submissive woman you are welcome to schedule a session via either avenue. I am comfortable talking with women, as I’ve done so in the past, so if you’re a woman reading this, don’t be shy! We’d love to have you. And as always I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject, and any feedback on your experiences. 1-800-601-6975 is where you can reach me, just ask for Brighton!
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So true about how important it is to honor the gift of submission, rather than purely seeking to exploit it. In My mind, the submissive is very powerful in the dynamic for this very reason, that they have the power to say no. Without their “yes”, what would those of us who have the desire to control, do?
I love images and porn featuring female submissives, if done artfully, but for some reason, being the D to a female s doesn’t appeal to Me. So glad there are Mistresses like you, Miss Brighton, to respond to that very sexy need!
I am so thrilled that you wrote this post, Ms. Brighton! It is so true that we tend to focus on submissive males and dominant females, without giving much credence to the other side of that coin. Like Ms. Rachel said, submissive is truly a gift and it takes a great deal of strength to give complete power and control over to another person. I have had the pleasure of dominanting more than one woman in my personal life, and I can attest to the fact they ALL of them were strong women, and none of them were “doormats”. Thanks for sharing this great post with us! XO
I have heard that submissive women sometimes have a hard time out there, with many dominants (mostly of the male persuasion) not treating submissive women with the respect they deserve. I think your post shows that women dominants could definitely be a better choice for submissive women.