There are two things that really grind my gears, and not in a good way. Okay… perhaps more than that, but we’re going to focus on the main two, in this blog post. The first one is something that I’m sure has been mentioned before, and perhaps I am not the only mistress to have this gripe. And the second has a lot to do with the fact that if you’re going to be a submissive, you should probably learn what that word means.
Speak Up Buttercup
At the risk of repeating myself, I do believe this bears repeating (see what I did there?): I. am not. a mind reader. While it would be lovely, if as soon as your mistress picked up the phone, she could pluck from your brain, the reason why you’re calling… this is highly improbable. It helps 100 fold, if you tell me why you’re calling, and what you’re looking for. Now, I do understand that there are some callers who really have no clue what they want, and even with that said, it also helps if you give your phone mistress an idea of the types of things you like. The biggest problem I have with the “I don’t know’s” and the “I’m into anything’s” is that if you tell me that, and then I go in a direction you’re not comfortable with, you may end up just as frustrated as I will be, trying to find common ground. I want to get to know my callers, I want to know what turns you on, what you’re curious about, and what your experience has been. But I never want it to feel like I’m pulling teeth, as to figuring out whether you want me to paint your cock with maple syrup, or ram an artichoke up your butt. It is very important to me that YOU – the caller – are happy with your experience, therefore, it is very important that you speak up. You don’t have to worry about offending or shocking me, or about me being disgusted. I’m not into shaming, I’m into learning.
When “I’m Into Anything” Goes Right
Now… in fairness, if a caller asks me what I like, or what my fantasy is, or what I’ve tried, I am MORE than happy to share that information. In the case of the “I don’t know’s” and the “I’m into anything’s” I have had successful calls, where I tossed something out there, and they started panting and groaning with delight. I wish I could tell you that this is always the case. It’s not. Feedback is hugely important, especially if you’re doing a role play, or you’re not sure what you’d like to do. Never ever be afraid to speak up, because you being direct, will help us both.
The Submissive That Wasn’t
The idea of being a submissive is not having someone scream and yell at you and make you eat dog biscuits – unless that happens to be your kink. A big part of being submissive is surrendering control to your domme, and submitting to her will. This cannot happen until you’ve discussed what you want, what your hard limits are, and of course,… safety. But another huge factor is obedience. While I do not consider myself a mean mistress, or a necessarily strict one, I do expect you to do as your told during a session. Failure to comply with your mistress will result in an experience that most submissives do not enjoy – again… unless that’s their kink – and believe me, while I might be sweet, my sweetness knows limits. If you expect me to listen when you speak (if you’re allowed to speak), I expect the same from you. No topping from the bottom, ever.
If you’re interested in a scene and want to discuss it with me before a session, emails are always welcome at email@example.com, or you can send me an im on yahoo. My yahoo ID is: EnchantrixBrighton and I do love hearing from a caller beforehand, and afterward, as to how they enjoyed their call, anything they’d like to add or change, and anything else you think would be important for me to know about you. And there you have it, the tips to a successful call with yours truly. Ready to play? I look forward to hearing from you.