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There are two things that really grind my gears, and not in a good way. Okay… perhaps more than that, but we’re going to focus on the main two, in this blog post. The first one is something that I’m sure has been mentioned before, and perhaps I am not the only mistress to have this gripe. And the second has a lot to do with the fact that if you’re going to be a submissive, you should probably learn what that word means.
Speak Up Buttercup
At the risk of repeating myself, I do believe this bears repeating (see what I did there?): I. am not. a mind reader. While it would be lovely, if as soon as your mistress picked up the phone, she could pluck from your brain, the reason why you’re calling… this is highly improbable. It helps 100 fold, if you tell me why you’re calling, and what you’re looking for. Now, I do understand that there are some callers who really have no clue what they want, and even with that said, it also helps if you give your phone mistress an idea of the types of things you like. The biggest problem I have with the “I don’t know’s” and the “I’m into anything’s” is that if you tell me that, and then I go in a direction you’re not comfortable with, you may end up just as frustrated as I will be, trying to find common ground. I want to get to know my callers, I want to know what turns you on, what you’re curious about, and what your experience has been. But I never want it to feel like I’m pulling teeth, as to figuring out whether you want me to paint your cock with maple syrup, or ram an artichoke up your butt. It is very important to me that YOU – the caller – are happy with your experience, therefore, it is very important that you speak up. You don’t have to worry about offending or shocking me, or about me being disgusted. I’m not into shaming, I’m into learning.
When “I’m Into Anything” Goes Right
Now… in fairness, if a caller asks me what I like, or what my fantasy is, or what I’ve tried, I am MORE than happy to share that information. In the case of the “I don’t know’s” and the “I’m into anything’s” I have had successful calls, where I tossed something out there, and they started panting and groaning with delight. I wish I could tell you that this is always the case. It’s not. Feedback is hugely important, especially if you’re doing a role play, or you’re not sure what you’d like to do. Never ever be afraid to speak up, because you being direct, will help us both.
The Submissive That Wasn’t
The idea of being a submissive is not having someone scream and yell at you and make you eat dog biscuits – unless that happens to be your kink. A big part of being submissive is surrendering control to your domme, and submitting to her will. This cannot happen until you’ve discussed what you want, what your hard limits are, and of course,… safety. But another huge factor is obedience. While I do not consider myself a mean mistress, or a necessarily strict one, I do expect you to do as your told during a session. Failure to comply with your mistress will result in an experience that most submissives do not enjoy – again… unless that’s their kink – and believe me, while I might be sweet, my sweetness knows limits. If you expect me to listen when you speak (if you’re allowed to speak), I expect the same from you. No topping from the bottom, ever.
Closing Notes
If you’re interested in a scene and want to discuss it with me before a session, emails are always welcome at brighton@enchantrixempire.com, or you can send me an im on yahoo. My yahoo ID is: EnchantrixBrighton and I do love hearing from a caller beforehand, and afterward, as to how they enjoyed their call, anything they’d like to add or change, and anything else you think would be important for me to know about you. And there you have it, the tips to a successful call with yours truly. Ready to play? I look forward to hearing from you.
Well said!!Since ive called you ive been nothing but respectful to you as you’ve gone shopping with MsCindy and I. I didn’t want to go but both of you giggles at me and said it would be fun for me to go with both of you. I wasn’t sure but both of you put your arms around me and gave me lipstick kisses on my cheeks. With 2 hot mistresses I was in no position as with each kiss my body changed along with my hair/nails and breasts growing. And I plan on calling you and MsCindy for more feminization of me by the 2 of you.
We love shopping with you, petey cream puff, and giving you all those lipstick kisses. 🙂
Ms Audrey wants to join in the shopping with you/Ms Cindy & I. She thinks it great how the 2 of you have feminized me and when I start to whine both ofbyou put your arms around me band give me lipstick kisses on my cheeks to weaken me. She said I look so cute and adorable in a bra/panty set along with keeping me in women’s clothes all the time along with the hormones in your lipstick to keep me as a cream Puff girl with girls body/breasts. I agree when your doing call with clients they should be focused on call and not multi tasking. Otherwise don’t call.
Ms. Brighton. Have you thought about putting up a precall questionnaire? That way you can learn some about the potential caller. Though I can truthfully say that the ones who truely do not know what they want should not bother.
Throws chips all over your blog then runs before you get back*
Sorry Ms. Brighton. I couldn’t resist
LOL Joseph! Yes I have and I’m going to put a special question on there just for you involving nachos. 😈 And thank you, I don’t necessarily “mind” if a caller doesn’t know what he wants, as long as they can articulate a few ideas for me to play with, or is willing to chat (without the pulling of teeth) so I can get to know them. 🙂
It’s unfortunate that we can’t be mind readers….so you bring up an important point about communication. There are so many kinks, fetishes and sexual desires…..Heck, even in a fetish like say ‘cuckolding’ there are so many variations that there is no way a Mistress could know what floats a new callers boat, so to speak. From what I know about you, I have no doubt any caller who opens up and confesses their kinks to you…..AND is willing to surrender completely and enjoy the ride….would have a memorable and HOT phone experience!
Thank you newtybee! Yes I do want my callers to have a good time, so communication is very important. If I were psychic, it would make things easier, of course if I were a psychic I’d probably be offering that service as well. Hahahahahahaha.
This is a good post and I appreciate it. I think I speak up at least enough to let a mistress know something of me and answer questions. I have never had a less than good call to anyone at LDW. There are two things though. One is that for some reason it is more natural to me when a mistress finds out my story rather than me saying it. The other is that (and this is true though embarrassing) when I call I am very scared and nervous. I notice that the Mistress is not. She sounds totally fine and confident. This seems natural as I am the submissive one. But the fear feeling is real and deep. I want the mistress to know that I am scared it feels like it gives her more power. I don’t know if the women know how scared we (me) truly is.
Mike it’s okay to be nervous, and yes I’ve had calls where question by question my caller revealed what it was they were after, or what their fantasy was, and that’s fine, as long as you are a part of the conversation, and contributing “to” the conversation.
yes, I totally agree with you there. I cannot imagine how hard or impossible it would be if you had a submissive who did not speak, answer or respond and participate. I think I would be too frightened not to participate.
i understand being confused and nervous on a first call or even the second call. But if a person gets enough courage to call they should at least participate i feel. But i do find the idea of the maple syrup sweetly interesting though…
Thank you tracy, and you’re welcome to call me any time to talk more in depth about the things you can do with maple syrup. 😉
All you say in your blog is very true, Ms. Brighton, but I’ve noticed an unfortunate trend recently from the ladies on your end of the line. By no means am I calling you out, nor will any other member of the Enchantrix Empire be named here, but multitasking is a buzzkill on a call. Hearing dishes clanking or keyboard typing while being on speaker phone is not cool. I appreciate that the nature of your job lends itself to getting things done while awaiting a client, but these things should not take place once a call is taken. That being said, 99% of calls and Empresses are fantastic. Thanks for your consideration.
Bill I agree with you 100% and thank you for your feedback. Your mistress should be paying attention to you during your session, and it would be very inconsiderate for someone to be “noisily” doing things in the background while on a call and not listening to her caller. I would be turned off too if I called someone and could tell they were multitasking and not really focusing on me.
Mistree Brighton. Those words are music to my ears and proves you are a true dominant.those words are I expect you to do as your told.I would certainly not want to disobey you.I can only imagine the punishment that would be coming.
Punishment is always fitting of the crime, but those who are disobedient get the exact opposite of what they want. 🙂