What a wild and crazy year it’s been huh? Hard to believe that it is now the 29th of December and we have two more days left before we enter into 2017. I know that some of you might be a little sad right now, in light of recent events, but I just want to let you all know you’re not alone. This year – while it did have its highlights – was also very challenging. So this year in review is a bit more serious than my usual jovial wisecracking blog posts.
2016 Year In Review
If you have been following along with all my blog posts, you know that I did A LOT of traveling this year! It start with Coachella. Fun in the sun, working on the tan, galavanting with my girlfriends, and meeting a VERY hot Brit. MEOW! Almost on the heels of that, a month later I ended up in London, and my only regret is that I couldn’t stay longer. There will definitely be a return trip just as fast as I can book my tickets! You’d think I was done… but alas no! I ended my travels this year in Florida and boarded a very Mistressy cruise with some ladies who are beautiful inside and out. I really do feel a great sense of appreciation for the women I work with here and I don’t take that for granted.
A Journey Into The Depths
While I can’t say I’ve had a bad year, I have had an emotionally trying year. Since I am a private person, I don’t discuss much of that here, but I will say that this year I said goodbye to someone who had a big impact on the reason I am the person that I have become. And while this person was estranged, it didn’t hurt any less. My past 6 months of the year pretty much spiraled and it has honestly been the wildest emotional roller coaster ride that I can ever remember experiencing. Without going into detail about all that, I want to tell all of you to take care of yourselves. Take care of your mental health, because it is just as important as your physical health, and anger, and stress, and sadness over a period of time can take its toll on your body. People don’t like to talk about mental illness, but as someone who has dealt with it personally, and watched other people going through it, I cannot tell you enough times, how serious your mental health is.
People go through many different types of heartbreak, anxiety, depression, and they are just as debilitating as being physically ill, and they can MAKE you physically ill. This year made me realize that I have to make changes and that I can no longer just suck it up and pretend to be okay when I’m not okay and I know I need a time out for whatever reason. And I know that all of us individually have had a crazy year, for many different reasons, so please remember to be kind to each other, because you never know what someone else is going through, while you’re trying to pull your stuff together. I think oftentimes we’re so consumed with our own grief that we forget other people are suffering. And please don’t turn it into who’s had a crappier life competition, because while it might not be as bad as someone else, everyone’s feelings are valid.
I am saying all of this because I’m not afraid to talk about it, because I’ve seen first hand what neglecting your mental health – or not being properly diagnosed – can do to a person, so the subject of mental illness is very personal for me. Please remember that while I do cater to your femdom fantasies, I am also here if you just need to talk to someone. So if you’re not in the mood to get hung from the ceiling by your nipples on meat hooks, or having a cake shoved down the back of your panties, and you just feel like chatting, that is perfectly alright.
Going Into 2017
This year I am looking forward to a very positive awakening, mind, body and spirit wise, and I’m excited to see what this coming year is going to bring. Most importantly I want to thank the ladies at LDW, and you the customers, for making this such a wonderful place. I wish you all an awesome year with plenty of good vibes – or buttplugs hehe – health and prosperity. And again: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
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Your so right about this being crazy year. It’s been a good year for me. Though I didn’t call nearly enough with you or the ldw mistresses. I’m planning on changing that in 2017. Ms Violet is pushing me hard to do sub contract with her so she can do feminization training with her in making/dressing/turning and keeping me as a girl. There are so many hot mistresses that I want to call but it’s so difficult to pick and choose from. My resolutions are to call ldw more/wear panties/bra more in public but without no one noticing. Wear more women’s clothes/boots in public. Staying healthy/watch less TV/lose weight and keep it off as I got to fat/eat cleaner and healthier/cut out the junk food. I want to have 3 women I know to put me in female lead relationship. How can I do this? The one I told is my my massuse and she’s supportive of this but she’s in on again off again marriage. The other 2 I’ve gone out with many times but they don’t know of my dressing. I really would love if they took control of me in safe in non harmful way.
petey cream puff I’m sure you will work it all out, and I hope you have a wonderful 2017! 🙂
Ms. Brighton, you are simply amazing! You are beautiful, sexy, intelligent…and brave! You are right, sadly so many people do not want to talk about mental illness. And we should be talking about it…we should be sharing our trials and challenges and supporting others who are dealing with the same struggles we have had. So many people pretend to be ok, and in the end that slowly eats away at your health, physically and mentally. Thank you so much for sharing your reflections with us and I hope you have an amazing 2017!
Thank you Sierra! I felt like it needed to be said, because it’s something I’m passionate about and want to spread more awareness of, because your mind truly is just as important as your body. xoxoxo 🙂
I agree we should all take care of ourselves, and I’m sorry you went through what you went through! 2016 was tough on some of us for sure. I also had my losses and tough moments. Thank you for posting this! We are all a kinky community, but it’s also important to look after one another too.
Thank you Cecilia! 🙂
My amazing Mistress friend…you are one of those that you write about:beautiful inside and out!I was lucky to share a room with you on that cruise and got to know a very special lady. Your post is so touching and such a testament to who you are. So kick 2016 in the balls and send in 2017 with a welcome smile. Cheers to you! xxoo
Thank you Meredith! I am just happy to be moving forward into a new year and yes, kicking 2016 in the balls! xoxox
I think when we Mistresses share about our challenges, it just makes us more relatable and powerful. The thing is that mental illness affects a lot of people, and too many keep it a secret. Depression is a dirty fucking liar, and it does not play fair. You can’t listen to anything it says. When I deal with depression, I always shift immediately into self-care mode and put everything on pause except things that make me feel great and things that can’t wait (like feeding my cats). When I do that, depression lasts such a shorter period of time. I’ve dealt with depression all of my life, and I’ve never felt the need to keep it a secret, because it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just who I am–and anyone else dealing with mental illness should feel okay about opening up about it, especially to his Mistress. More than a few of us know what it’s all about, and we can certainly help. Thank you for being open and for showing all of us that it’s safe to be real with you! 🙂
Thank you for sharing and your insight. It is the reason I posted because I want people to feel comfortable speaking out about mental illness and I hope more people do. You do have to shift and I think a lot of people try to plow through it and end up doing more harm than good.
Well, thank you enchantrix Brighton, I absolutely love your entry starting, “People go through many different types of heartbreak…” So empathic, so considerate, so filled with compassion, that I feel uplifted in my own pain” Thank you and a happy new year to you.
Thank you folmer! It is very true and just remember always that what you feel is valid. 🙂
Wonderful answer enchantrix Brighton. I will, I will, I will. Your reminder is on the point.
Health is wealth
Spiritually, physically,mentally.one needs to get the most out of life.see a professional if help is needed.we are our own harshest critics so be nice to yourself and others.
Very true Gigi thank you. We beat ourselves up and often blame ourselves when things that are beyond our control, go wrong. 🙂
Sorry I haven’t been able to make it here for a while, Brighton. Life. I guess you could title this one “A Tale of Two Mistresses.” Lol. It really did seem like you had the best of times and the worst of times. I guess you also could have called this one Mistresses Are People Too. 🙂 I’m sorry what you have been going through has caused you such pain. I have been in bad emotional places and it’s not easy to get out of sometimes. I got sad reading this thinking of you there. But you gave excellent advice, although as you know sometimes it’s easier to give the advice then follow it. I hope you were able to take your advice, and truly are taking care of yourself and feeling better. You deserve it. You’re a fun and good person. And sexy as all fucking hell. Thanks for writing about this, and here’s to a great 2017 (even if I don’t want to hang from the ceiling by my nipples). B